Friday, July 02, 2010

Gay men become victims of forced marriages

Men in some communities are being forced into marriage because their families suspect they are gay or bisexual, the British government has revealed. The Forced Marriage Unit (FMU) says there has been a surge in such cases. Over the past year, the number of calls from men to the unit increased by 65%, from 134 in 2008 to 220 in 2009. Experts believe the figures are only the "tip of the iceberg", as the issue tends to be under-reported for both sexes.

In all, 1,682 forced marriages were reported to the FMU – a joint Home Office/Foreign Office body – last year. Of those, the calls suggest, 14% involved a man being forced into a union. But the unit believes the true figure may be as high as one in five. Most victims are aged from 15 to 24, but the FMU recently received a call to its helpline from a 62-year-old widower whose family was trying to force him to marry a 35-year-old woman because they no longer wanted to care for him. Cases also include an underaged man taken to Pakistan and forcibly engaged to his five-year-old cousin.



Most calls come from men linked to Pakistan, followed by India and Bangladesh. But it has also received calls from British men with links to the Middle East, Africa and eastern Europe. According to the FMU, such incidents traditionally increase during the summer, when holidays abroad are taken.

While the vast majority (86%) of victims it sees are female, the FMU says men are being forced into marriage because they are gay or bisexual, or because their families suspect that they are. It can also be a result of family commitments to relatives abroad or their own expectations, securing visas or an attempt to control their son's behaviour or protect a family's reputation. Just two weeks ago, the FMU took a call from a young man living in Leicester whose family had locked him in his bedroom after discovering that he was gay. He told the FMU that his family were downstairs, discussing whether they should take him to India and either kill him, abandon him there or marry him off.

Full story here.

2 comments:

Insolitus said...

If your family is discussing whether they are going to kill you, abandon you to a foreign country or forcibly marry you to someone, I think the last option is not the one that defines your problem.

In any case, if you as a parent are willing to sacrifice the happiness or possibly the life of your child in order to save face, family honour or some other such thing, I can honestly and with confidence say you have your priorities absolutely wrong and should not be a parent at all.

nauip said...

That'll fix 'em! Ya! (Fundies perplex me)